It’s so true. I feel like it’s something a lot of us forget to do, and you’re not alone. I know many of us have been grieving over the past few years, and it’s not easy, so my heart goes out to you. It’s important to really honor that!
Yeah! It’s also important to laugh. If you feel like laughing at something, laugh! It is healing. One thing I’ve definitely learned is that if you can’t laugh at something, you’ll never recover from it. Just express it and get it out of your mind [is so important]. After saying negative things, I like to undo them. Since the cancel culture is so blazing right now, let’s cancel those negative thoughts, then bring some positive ones and go to bed. [laughs]. But also, if you have those bad thoughts, that’s fine too. Crying is healthy. It’s the first thing you did when you were born. Now, I’m not saying you should cry every day, but you need to find time to laugh in between those cries. That’s why I try to laugh as much as possible. It releases better chemicals into your body when you laugh rather than cry. But you still need both.
Shift a bit here. I would like to talk about your bestseller Layla, the last black unicorn. What experiences shaped the book for you and how did you find the concept?
So many experiences. There is a part in the book where the other unicorns call Layla “woodsy”. Growing up, they used to [say to me], “You’re so ghetto.” There’s nothing wrong with that, just like Layla being woody. She had skills they didn’t have, and she was able to save the day. People will try to make you feel bad for who or what you are. It doesn’t matter ’cause those skills you got because of it [are] going to benefit you and others around you at some point. Honor that, be proud of it, and there’s nothing wrong with being unique, because it will serve you well. Trust and believe.
I heard that you are also working on some other really exciting projects, including the second season of the after party on Apple TV and a new collection of essays titled I curse you with joy. What can you share about them? I’m sure everyone is going to be really excited to hear about it straight from the source!
what i can share After the party season two is that there is a wedding. Oh… and someone dies. That’s all I can say about it! As for I curse you with joy, they call it a series of essays, but I call it a memoir. These are stories from my experience. You get a lot more not only from the stories, but also from my thoughts and my take on things. I hope this brings joy and healing to others.
It’s definitely needed right now! You have so many projects going on. How do you make time in your busy schedule for things like personal care or writing? Do you have any non-negotiable beauty or self-care practices that you absolutely must do every day to stay centered?
Well, every day I have to say my little mantras, and I have to pray every day. These are the main things that happen every day, no matter what. Sometimes I might not wash my face, I might not wash my body, but I have to do those two things every day. I have to pray and say my mantras, and I have to drink water.
Do you have any favorite mantras you can share with us?
“I believe children are the future. Teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they have inside. Give them a sense of pride to make it easier. Let the children’s laughter remind us [of] how we were. Everyone is looking for a hero. People need someone to look up to. I’ve never found someone who meets my need – a lonely place to be. And I learned to depend on myself. I decided a long time ago never to walk in anyone’s shadow. If I fail, if I succeed, at least I will live as I believe. No matter what they take from me, they can’t take away my dignity. I have found the greatest love of all within me.” – whitney houston
That pretty much sums up everything in my life. This is [why it’s] One of my favorites. I say this one every morning.
And how about your unfiltered beauty philosophy in seven words or less?
Take care of the inside and [the] outside it will be fine.