The Holiday Men’s Gift



Kema Christian-Coates’ childhood was filled with “holiday men”, absent fathers – including his own – who returned every year around Christmas to disappear again. Her father’s absence has left a hole in her life and the fear that she, like her mother and grandmother, will never find a man to rely on.

Today we hear Kema’s story of realizing the power of her mother and grandmother’s presence in her life and finding a lasting partnership.

Modern Love is hosted by Anna Martin and produced by Julia Botero, Christina Djossa, Elyssa Dudley and Hans Buetow. The show is edited by Sara Sarasohn and our executive producer is Jen Poyant. The show is mixed by Sophia Lanman and recorded by Maddy Masiello. It features original music by Dan Powell and Marion Lozano. Our theme music is by Dan Powell.

Special thanks to Daniel Jones, Miya Lee, Mahima Chablani, Jeffrey Miranda, Renan Borelli, Nina Lassam, Julia Simon and Anna Diamond at Audm.

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